Kristin Cavallari opens up about divorce and dating in a new interview, including how she’s not getting back together with her old flame/new podcast partner Stephen Colletti.
The reality star candidly answered all questions about the call her daddy podcast, including the hardest ones, about what made his marriage to former NFL star Jay Cutler “toxic,” a word he used to describe it in the past.
“So this is the only thing I have because I have three children with him,” said the very cavallari the alum began. “I’m very careful what I say, if you and I don’t have microphones in front of us, I would tell you, but that’s his father and my oldest son Googles us now and I just want to be very careful. My mom never said anything bad about my dad growing up [after they divorced] And I really respected that and I want to be that kind of mom.”
That said, “It was toxic. Period. End of story. That’s all I need to say,” the 35-year-old replied.
Cavallari said that when she and Cutler got together, after…The hills after a few years of partying, “At that point in my life, he was perfect for me,” saying he was “easy and fun.” However, he also spoke about “red flags” about “dealbreaker” behaviors.
“I canceled [our] commitment [in 2011 for] the same reason I got divorced,” he said. “The same reasons I should say. So I guess if there’s one thing to take away from that, it’s: you can’t ignore red flags.”
They announced their split in 2020, but say it was long overdue. “It took me a few years to pull the trigger to be honest with you,” she said.
The founder of Uncommon James said that divorce is scary, sad but also “for the best… With any relationship, you just have to realize what the deal breakers are for you… and I was really unhappy. That was the end result. And I was in an unhealthy relationship. So for me, that’s not worth it. Also, I didn’t want my kids to think that was normal. I wanted them to see me happy and see me, not now, but eventually, with someone who really respects me and treats me the way I need to be treated.“
Since then, he has been back in the dating game. Despite the toxicity, she has had a few dates with her ex-husband. She also shared a kiss with her ex Colletti, her high school boyfriend, as lagoon beach fans remember, and co-host of his new podcast, Back to the beach with Kristin and Stephen.
“I went to dinner with him almost two years ago and we kissed, which was fun,” she said of her meeting with Colletti. “He was actually dating someone at the time. [and] just making up for lost time, so… it just didn’t turn into anything.”
She claimed that that’s the end of it, saying, “Once I’m done with someone, I’m done. It’s like a light switch flips on and I can’t go back.”
He had many funny dating stories, both from the past to the present. In one, she talked about going on a date two months earlier with an “actor” she didn’t identify. The meeting went terribly wrong, in the middle of a busy Los Angeles bar/restaurant.
“I was closing the drinks,” he recalled. “We were sitting at the bar. He’s fucking full. He gets up to re-enact a trick he had done. [and] accidentally bumps into the waiter and says, ‘Oh, I’m so sorry.’ I was like, please sit down. She’s creating all this commotion in the middle of Laurel Hardware.”
She also talked about being chased by younger men.
“I’ve been attracting a lot of guys in their twenties,” he said. “I don’t know what it is… You know I have three children, right?”
For the record, Cavallari said 30 is his minimum age, while a 45-year-old businessman who isn’t on social media is his ideal. He pointed to Alexander Skarsgård, of big lieslike his celebrity crush.
Cavallari also said that a man who is confident in himself is a must, as well as someone who is cool with whom she is dating some guys who get “the taste of fame and lose their minds. They almost get addicted to it, or It’s really threatening… They get really jealous and insecure.”
She also wants him to make the first move, although no, we repeat, not through DM.
“Where I am currently in my life, I want to be followed,” he said. “I want to be f*cking courted. I want the man to make a f*cking effort. Because guys now, again, I’ve been with Jay for 10 years, this is my first time on social media.” media world: it’s like a shit show. I hate every second. But the guys are fucking lazy now, and they’re always looking for the next best thing. So it’s like, no, sorry, I don’t have time for your nonsense anymore. Like let me see how serious you are and put in the effort. So, no, I’m not going to make the first move.
“Now I’m so different in dating,” he said. “I see shit from a mile away and it’s like, no, I’m not actually going to put up with that.”